RANT:THE BANKY REVEAL


 Hi, guys! How's everyone doing? Hope life's treating you well? And if things aren't going so smoothly, hope those lemonades you're making out of the lemons are looking good! Keep at it, things will get better. :)

 I have been away for the longest time for so many reasons. I bet you're tired of my endless apologies- but your girl's trying really hard to sort out her life, you know. I have my first major project out of the way now (God is amazing), just currently working on the other! :)

However, today, I did not come here to laugh. I am here for serious business and what I hope will develop into and propel very serious/mature conversations. I, honestly, could easily air my thoughts out on Twitter, but then 280 characters won't do them proper justice. On the flip side, too, the things I desperately need to say aren't necessarily long enough to require a whole thread.
So, blog it out of my system, I shall. :)

Realistically, the only symbol/letters/numbers I need to type out are #BAAD2017 for you to conceive where this is headed. Anyway, my favorite Nigerian artiste (and probably yours, too) of all time, Mr. W, as is no news,married the girl of his dreams (Adesua)last weekend.It was beautiful, full of love and honestly everything I had hoped it would (and even if it wasn't, it wouldn't have mattered as long as man and wife were satisfied). Of course, after the Wedding Party,comes the honeymoon! I know you know where this is leading...

 So, my fave is kind enough to snapchat his experience on this particular day, just to let us all into what himself & wifey have been up to. Don't tell a lie, you know you wanted to know, too. Anyway, one milli second leads to another and wifey is spotted behind, in nothing but underwear & social media has been in a frenzy ever since. Why? I'm not so sure.

 Can I speak? Can I really speak?

 Right. Mr. W is in a hotel room. With his newly wed wife. There's a mishap. He deletes the snap immediately. There is no comment from either half of the Wellingtons- who, by the way, probably laughed it off.

 So, tell me, fellow Nigerian, what is your issue, please?
I have seen all sorts fly up and down my Twitter timeline. From how they have been advised to stay off social media to how honeymoon is (and I quote)"not for sex."
The honeymoon of two grown adults o!

 This is not directed at anyone who's honestly chosen to play it down by tapping from the humour in the circumstance. I am talking to all y'all who have placed it so delicately on your heads, selling your opinion to whomever cares to pay you any slight attention like a determined hawker on the streets of Lagos.

I think one of the things I find most annoying is how, from one erroneous post, everyone is entitled to make assumptions about the likely success (or otherwise)of their Marriage. I am not necessarily upset at the sharing of that particular picture, I just want to know why we feel our notion of 'appropriate' or 'inappropriate' matters to grown adults and why it's so important to pour them out on other people. Listen, it's okay to mind your business, you know. It's actually fine to keep your opinion to yourself, I promise you.


 But I guess, at the end of the day and with all things under the sun, stories like that do not tend to last too long. We get bored really quickly and hop on to the next! Just this morning, somebody else has been, very unfortunately and painfully, dragged up and down my timeline. Really painfully, fam.

 Only difference, though? It matters to them. They are affected by it. The Wellingtons, however? Not the slightest.

 In essence, and to round this up before it becomes any longer, let's all try and do better, please. Tuck in your judgmental tendencies. I can see it from here. :)

Right! That's me done ranting- at least, until someone brings me back here again! I should probably make clear here that ranting isn't all I do with this blog, I promise. Just in case it's your first time here. :)

 I really hope you have the loveliest weekend, whatever you might be getting up to- and thank you so much for stopping by!Please do not leave without dropping me a comment or two! :)

 With ALL of my love,

 ~A.J.

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